Seeing who you’re not a match with
can be devastating at first,
traumatizing even,
but in the end its a blessing.
It’ll give you the wisdom
To know who is FOR you,
And who’s not.
Let go of the mismatches.
And keep going.
Reject and be rejected.
Its healthy;
Until you’ve found a match.

Discard the joker card.

And stop being a stranger to yourself.

Be your Unique Card.

And be a friend to yourself. 

Stop being a social chameleon; 

Stop being the joker;

The stranger who has

No substance; No polarity. No self authority.

Go out into the world; 

Stop trying to live up to a vain standard of what is “good enough” in the eyes of others. 

BE your OWN ‘good enough’ to yourself.

Give no regard to the ones who reject you.

Give no regard to the ones who like you because you showed them the stranger.

They don’t see you because you know they can’t and never will.

They never will. 

GOOD! 

You never truly matched with them anyways.

You’ll eventually see the one

who sees you as YOU.

No more need to morph yourself & become their match when you’re not. 

Stay true to the Friend in You; in Your Heart.  

Be “just right” in your eyes alone.

Let your heart guide YOU as YOU. 

Be yourself. 

For real. 

Don’t dim your authentic expression as yourself.

You matter as YOU.  Not the joker stranger.

You will never matter as the joker to anyone, most importantly to YOU. 

You’re important as YOU, not a scammer.

If someone doesn’t like you, GOOD! 

Let them. 

If you don’t like someone, GOOD! 

Give yourself permission to let that land.

Take that in. 

Now you know who’s not meant for you. ….not a match! 

Rejection is healthy. 

Carry on!

You don’t wanna try & like anyone you don’t. 

You don’t want to try and be liked by anyone who can’t like the real you;

Who doesn’t match cards with you.

Give yourself the permission to walk away. 

Without apology.

In Faith & Trust. 

Keep going. 

Continue to share your preferences with who you meet; your opinions, your desires, your limits, your fears.

Be willing to face any rejection. 

It’s healthy. 

Its builds courage. Confidence. 

You’ve got YOU! 

If and when someone DOES show up and likes you, you can then trust that connection, because you showed up revealing your true CARD

Eureka!!

Now you know the relationship is a match.

Now you know for sure you can relax and build something real.

You CAN find that match, 

Because you found the match within your heart. 

All that is required is that you STAY with your True Friend and honour yourself as yourself. 

 

When you want my time, attention, and respect; then respect my time and attention.

Honour all that I value, and hold space for me so I can gain trust in your presence to speak to you at a level worthy for both of us.

If you don’t care whether or not my truth matters to me, I will not feel favourable to give you my time, energy or attention. 

I want to trust that my beliefs and opinions will be honoured by you, which is a reflection of my faith in you. I want to feel seen & heard, not talked at or over, overlooked, dismissed, dominated by your terms of what I can and cannot say. 

Please find ways to relate with me that will show me that you’re truly interested in me. 

Love me with your heart, that I may love you with mine. 

Align with thine own Inner River of Life that flows from the wand of the All-Compassionate; well is it with the ripple that drinks!

Cast away the divisive stranger of unworthiness hiding behind the noisy mask of self-significance, self-intelligence & self-righteousness, and instead, intuitively breathe in the Unifying Friend of Peace.

What are the acts of hiding?

They are the unrecognized, unowned, unaccountable, shame-bound resistances that fragment the Wholeness of who you really are:

Frighten yourself.

Fight yourself.

Freeze yourself.

Flee yourself.

Fault yourself.

Forsake yourself.

Fake yourself.

Fail yourself.

Fret to forget.

Force to forget.

Fawn to forget.

Fume to forget.

“One righteous act (of owning these blocks without resistance), is endowed with a potency that can so elevate the dust as to cause it to pass beyond the heaven of heavens.”

Bahá’u’lláh

Gleanings from the writings of Bahá’u’lláh (p.286)

I am here with you;

would you take off the mask,

And be with me?

Are you willing

to meet me where I am?

I need to know

if you want to stay & learn

the hidden parts of my heart

Remembering we are free.

Or if you’d rather still hide

And distract me from the other side.

God, grant me the serenity to recognize and appreciate how extremely low Self-Worth is the cause of individuals trying to control others’ reality perceptions. They try to control the reality perception of others through denying, minimizing, criticizing, patronizing, condescending, insulting, rationalizing, persuading, coercing, pressuring, belittling, justifying, spiritualizing.

Grant me the Courage to stand firmly in my Self Worth, fully detached from the low-self worth in others.

Grant me the Wisdom to Breathe in Serenity before courageously choosing My Already Worthy Self in the face of those who need to steal the energy of my Self-Worth.

Self Worth cannot be stolen, only given away based on an identity lie.

Today I will authenticate myself and share it.

Today I will be the one I was & am

before I got condemned for being me

And told to do as I was told.

And dishonoured and made to feel small.

I am leaving behind that lonely life

of being the one others like,

the high-functioning one,

the invisible one,

the over-giving one,

the validating one,

the fake one,

the fearful one, …..

No more living through the eyes of others misaligning myself through their knowledge.

Today, I will acknowledge & love myself in my authenticity.

Today, I will notice & be noticed for being myself.

And not the one I conformed to.
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From The Spirit Within Who Loves Me:

The best beloved of all things in My sight is Authenticity; turn not away therefrom if you desire Me, and neglect it not that I may confide in thee.
By its aid thou shalt be informed of My love for thee, and no longer impoverished by the stranger of lies.

You shalt honour thine own Self.

You shall choose thine own Loving Self; and let go of that false unacceptable self that fear of being unworthy of the love of others.

Ponder this in thy heart; how it behooveth thee to be. Verily, authenticity is My gift to thee and the sign of My loving-kindness. Set it then before thine eyes.

To disclose and own my feelings in the face of threat that would deceive me into dismissing, disregarding & diminishing my worth.

I am already worthy just as I am in every present moment. I am acknowledging and honoring who I am.

What is your greatest fear and happiness?

To not harm you while I expose my hidden resistant truth. This disclosure is not meant to attack or threaten you, but to remind both of us of who I am just as I am, without the need to prove it.

What is your greatest fear and happiness.?

To be witnessed dropping the resistance that stopped me from exposing myself as I am. That resistance was a shabby substitute that blocked me from the recognition of my true worth.

What is your greatest fear and happiness?

To expose to you my Untouchable Unmovable Unshakeable Being in the face of an insecure agenda meant to have me bound and gagged living under a spell of pity & unworthiness.