1. I’m waking up to self-love + self-forgiveness
I see now that I haven’t been loving myself when staying in one-sided dynamics. I forgive myself for that. I was doing the best I could with what I knew. After years of “settling for & hiding in one-sided relationships”, now I know more of the true love I’m willing to receive.
2. I only want an equal, already-matched partnership
I want someone who’s already right for me — and I’m already right for them — not a project, not potential, not “maybe in 20 years.” I want to co-create a new shared space together, in real life. Not fantasy. Not me joining his world for his benefit; not him joining mine for mine. Together. Equal. Mutual choice.
3. Real love is 4-dimensional
Mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual. All of it. A loving bond that feeds both souls. Not a dynamic where my job is to be-of-service, to fill a need, to disappear, shrink, or become the full-time audience for their life while my needs are put on the back burner. And I won’t do that to them either.
4. If it’s not Reciprocal Human-Divine Love, it’s a distraction
If the bond doesn’t reflect the deepest, most heartfelt love that fills both of our souls — then it’s not love. It’s settling. It’s distraction. Distractions aren’t evil, but they do keep both people from true love’s fulfillment. Distractions are both hot & cold, & perpetuate empty, unmet longing.
5. Staying in distraction is not love
Staying where I’m not equally seen, equally heard, equally supported, or equally chosen isn’t kind or loving to me. And it’s not kind to him either, because it keeps us both from what’s real. Love tells the truth. Love chooses what’s aligned. Love walks away from what stagnates & ultimately drains life-force energy.
One-sentence version:
I only choose equal, 4-dimensional Human-Divine love that we co-create together in real time; real life. Anything less is a distraction that I forgive myself for, and lovingly release.
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