It’s a trauma-based, fear-driven, conditioned coping mechanism that lives inside our authentic being. Specifically: the fight, flee, freeze, fawn, friend pattern. These are the body’s intelligent, automatic responses to a perceived life threat that never got completed or discharged.
It formed in response to a sudden energetic event in the past: leaving the body. Our authentic being, in blind innocence, misinterpreted that moment as separation from love, resonance, connection, security, and safety.
That trauma-based misinterpretation got stuck in the body. It became the guilt and shame that now blocks authenticity from fully re-entering.
To survive with having “left the body”, our blind innocence identified with the fight, flee, freeze, fawn, friend mechanism itself. It started using that same trauma-based pattern on others, trying to reconcile with the very thing that rules the body. So it came to believe: I am this coping mechanism.
This is the entire contradiction that perpetuates itself.
The only way to put the trauma-based fight, flee, freeze, fawn, friend pattern to rest is to simply stop acting it out.
If the fear feels too great to stop, then the path is solitude: be alone for a while. Use that space to return to the body and reunite with it. That reunion breaks the spell that started the whole trauma-based cycle in the first place.
Nina’s Nuances 