Resistance to ‘accepting what is’ occurs because there is fear. The fear is because one is disconnected with their own Divine Essence. The strategy becomes convincing others to agree to improve/change; wanting happiness for them, or needing to get happiness from them. It can look like others convincing me to agree to improve/change; wanting happiness for me, or wanting me to give them happiness. These strategies are manipulative & a desperate attempt  to provide each other with love, security, support, connection, acceptance & safety.   Responsibility for receiving essence is placed onto others. Me onto them, or them onto me. Both are the same. They are both resistance to what is, both a resistance to supplying it for ourselves, within ourselves. Only our own essence within our Divine Light can provide what we truly want & need for ourselves.

For example, if I see & hear a child having a temper tantrum, and my impulse is to quiet the child in any way I know how, it is because I have interpreted the noise to be “fearful” or “annoying”. I have placed responsibility on the child to give me essence. This is resistance on my part.  If I have been ‘misunderstood’ by someone, and I feel attacked, my impulse would be to ‘correct’ her to make her understand me.  I have placed responsibility on her to give me essence.  This is resistance on my part.  If I believe a lover desires sex from me, and my impulse is to ‘please’, then I took on his responsibility for dissolving his fear, and sex is an attempt to give him essence. He has placed responsibility on me to give him essence. If I see or feel fear in others, and my impulse is to ‘fix it’, it is because I have disconnected from my own Divine Essence.  It’s time to re-connect.

All these scenarios are strategies to re-connect with our own essence.  I want to stop a baby’s cry, I believe he’s in distress, and I want my fear to go away.  I want to fix a misunderstanding, I believe my brother may attack, and I want my fear to go away.  I want to stop my lover’s feelings of rejection/attack; I believe I’m guilty, and I want my fear to go away. I want to stop the sickness/pain; I believe I am guilty, and I want my fear to go away. The only thing that will make fear go away is to stop seeking essence in others or having others seek it in you.  There is no peace in trying to own essence that does not belong to you or me.

So, a change in perception of things would change how I see those things.  When I hear a child express a temper tantrum, I will not interpret it as a thing that must be stopped just because it seems to upset me.  I will let it be. I will not resist. I will accept it as I accept my own love essence.

When I feel ‘misunderstood’ by my brother, I will not interpret it as a thing that now must be ‘understood’ just because it seems to upset me.  I will let it be.  I will not resist. I will accept it as I accept my own love essence.  I will accept it with love.

When my lover appears to be experiencing fear, and believes sex will release that fear, I will not take that to mean I need do something.  Sex is ‘a manipulative strategy’ when used to cover up fear. I will look at my own guilt and fear, and I will let go of the need to please. I accept my own love essence & I accept my decisions. I will accept what is with love.

When I feel sick or see someone who appears sick or in pain, I will not interpret it as a thing that shouldn’t be happening, or a thing that is ‘bad’ because it seems to upset me.  I will not resist. I will accept it as I accept my own love essence.   I will accept it just as it is with love.

I will not act when motivated out of fear or guilt. I will reconnect with my Essence. I will accept it as I accept my own love essence.   I will dismiss the impulse to react from the place of resistance. I will accept my own love essence. When all resistance has subsided, stillness, peace and contentment will be mine, and I will extend Love from  that place of Love. Today belongs to love.  Let me not fear.