1. I used to think loyalty meant leaving myself to stay close to you. Now I know I can love you without abandoning me.
2. I used to believe that if I didn’t match your pace, I was being disrespectful. Now I respect myself by matching my own pace.
3. I used to fuse with your urgency because I called it care. Now I know real care lets both of us breathe.
4. I used to think separating meant I was creating disunity. Now I know I was just untangling what was never mine to carry.
5. I used to dim my light so you would feel less alone. Now I stand in my own light so I don’t feel alone.
6. I used to confuse your loud play as more valuable. Now I value my own play, anchored & contained, in my solar plexus.
7. I used to move my star into your orbit and call it devotion. Now I shine from my own coordinate and call it devotion to myself.
8. I used to think “not merging” meant I was disloyal. Now I know staying in my own frequency is the most loyal thing I’ve ever done.
9. I used to apologize for taking my own time and space. Now I honor my time and space because it’s how I stay true to myself.
10. I used to believe I had to leave myself to play the way you did. Now I honour my own rhythm and stay with myself — steady, bright, and free.
11. I used to use comparison to measure my worth. Now I use my own resonance to know my worth.
12. I used to hold resentment because I thought you owed me your orbit. Now I release resentment because I own my own coordinate.
13. I used to feel inferior when your way looked bigger, better, faster, more. Now I feel grateful for my quiet, steady, & unperformed way.
14. I used to stay merged out of fear of separation. Now I stay grounded in myself, and separation becomes space — not exile.
15. I used to feel your non-compromising way as rejection because I’d already compromised myself to you. I now devote myself to my non-compromising way.
Nina’s Nuances 