Emotional pain is inevitable. The fear that it is your enemy and means something unworthy or not good about you, will make you resist it and find a scapegoat to place it onto. You ‘believe’ you’re worthy & good, and that you don’t ‘deserve’ the inflicted pain, but there’s an unhealed part of you in pain that doesn’t believe it’s worthy of love, so it is that part that brings the pain to you, so you can finally own it and set it free. Do you see?
Instead of viewing pain as the enemy to resist, control or outrun, surrender to it & allow it to be felt completely. It has a great gift. Welcome it. It brings the gift of forgiveness. It brings the remembrance of the Wholeness & Innocence that you already are.
Suffering is the perpetual resistance to owning that banished part of you in pain because of the meaning of unworthiness and threat you gave it; so it stays repressed and banished to hell. Let go of the misunderstood pain of separation that gets covered up with false narratives.
When unowned pain gets triggered and resurfaces, the belief that it’s a threat gets activated too. That belief feels so intolerable that you immediately reject the pain and take control to get rid of it. You blame it on a world of your making, with the intent to feel better about yourself. This keeps you bound and confused as to why you never feel whole just as you are.
In this state, you unconsciously control the narrative as it suits you in order to keep that “pain of unworthiness” in hell. But that banishment haunts you. You reactively manipulate, minimize , rationalize , justify or spiritualize the pain of your reality and the reality of others in order to keep that original judgement out of awareness.
The solution to be free of the lies of unworthiness is available to you in the trigger. Lean into the pain, and remember its innocence. See through the lie that tells you the pain is a threat that you must fight, fawn or flee from to make it go away. Do the opposite. Own it. Welcome the pain. Give yourself permission to reunite with it. It’s not your enemy. It’s the Friend. The Gift of Confirmation will come in the non-resistance. The revealing of the truth of your Wholeness & Power shall set you free of any more deception.
“The well-being of the reality of man, it’s peace and security, is unattainable, unless & until its unity is fully established”. Baha’u’llah
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