From Trauma to Truth

1) The Trauma. Being told over and over that you were to listen and obey to “the rules.”

When you did not obey the rules, when you did something wrong in their eyes, they had the right to be upset with you which then gave them the entitlement to punish you. They said it hurt them more than it hurt you.

You were told you were to be seen and not heard. You were told over and over to do as you’re told; to obey the ‘one framing the narrative’. You were never allowed to disagree or disobey…. never considered or permitted to claim your own self-agency; never given the true knowledge that just by being alive you had the right to speak up on your own behalf; to feel honoured or graced to have your own autonomy to be seen, heard and understood in who you really were.

The forming of the authentic self never had a chance to germinate and grow. It was against the rules. The trauma happened when the authority defined this dynamic as respect. Your sense of self worth was determined by how well you respected them. Your self-worth was determined by how well you met and agreed to their own frame of reference.

Respect meant you merged with the other’s reality completely and to stay with them. Respect meant to never let them know of your growing desire to separate and disagree from them and their frame of reference.

2) The Trauma Response: (fight-flight-freeze-fawn). The trauma response is staying in this fear to stay “safe” while in the presence of those who believe they are right and believe they have the right knowledge and you don’t; only getting their approval when you side with their frame of reference. The trauma response never allows your opinion or your disagreement to the other’s owned narrative.

Your self-worth is still tied to how well your feelings can stay repressed & suppressed so as you never “disrespect” the other’s owned narrative.

Your Self-worth is still tied to how well you disrespect and dismiss your truth, that is still unknown to you.

Your self-worth is still tied to how well you love, care, nurture or save someone else’s autonomy. It’s all you’ve ever known.

Thoughts and feelings that would rescue and save you, are considered by you & others as inappropriate and harmful.

3) Remembering Who You Are:

When you became a victim of trauma, you were unaware of your inner treasure that could save you. Instead, you identified and merged with the trauma itself. You became a “trauma-response”.

Recognition of this truth, awakens you with the eyes to see & the ears to hear that you are your own True Authority of your own True Reality.

You now recognize that you always had the right to break free from every fight-flight, freeze-fawn response that you perpetually fell victim to; to claim and reclaim your Rightful Inheritance: Your Authentic Ordinary Self.

No amount of trauma or trauma-response-behaviour can ever define who you really are.

No amount of toxic conditioning in yourself or other, can define your authentic, ordinary self.

You are a creation of life, and you have no external authority. All are united and equal in their Own True Autonomy. All are unique, honoured, & accepted in holding to their own real & true frame-of-reference.

You are creation and creator, unified, and whole and complete just as you are, in any given breath.

You are your own internal authority to be recognized, and expressed as such, without apology.

There is no harmful narrative that can define you.

There is no harmful word, belief or accusation that can define you. Do you see this?

There is no deception or manipulation that can define you. Do you see this?

There is no trauma or trauma response that can define you. Do you see this?

Do you see the innocent playful dream whose purpose was to fall prey to a trauma dream, and then wake-up from it only to realize that your self-worth was never tied to anything or anyone?

See this. Hear this.

You’ve been reborn. You have been given a second chance to live in your Ordinary Extraordinary Power to be yourself just as you are; to disagree when you don’t agree; in every breath, in every scary feeling, in every insightful prompt, in every choice true for you.