You Are Not Upset For the Reason You Think

“You are not upset for the reason you think”.

You are not upset because others are negotiating one-on-one visit times, but rather, you feel “left-out, over-looked” because they were not negotiating visit times with “you”. You felt left behind and forgotten. You felt as if you didn’t matter. They weren’t noticing you. Is that true? Go within and find the truth.

In fact, your anger was actually a trigger to bring awareness that you were missing them and wanted to spend more time with them. You didn’t know that. And now you know. But your words were harsh my dear. Those words became a trigger for one of them. You need to know this because, one day, if you continue to act-out your fears again, trying to control again, she may lose her desire to spend time with you. That doesn’t get visit time with her now does it? When you appear confrontational, she will choose to find love elsewhere. She may choose to stay away from interacting with you at all. You probably didn’t think that was what happens, but that is what happens. Maybe you can’t help yourself when you find yourself trying to force someone’s hand, trying to get them to see you, but you will most definitely experience rejection from her when you try. Projecting anger has its consequences; it keeps her separate from you, and you will be left alone wondering why she doesn’t come around anymore. You know that is not what you truly want. Maybe you weren’t aware what you wanted in that moment of outburst, so you just spouted off because it felt safe to do so, and so you did it. You believe that your loved ones will never reject you. You believe that they will always accommodate your anger, come to your rescue and find a solution for you; to include you. Or… maybe, one day, they won’t. Do you want to find out? Do you want to feel rejection again? Do you want to experience this pain over and over? No, you do not.

Next time, maybe you will stop and enquire what it is that is truly upsetting you and then come to the best solution. No one is telling you what you should do. You are simply saying to yourself what you truly want and need the next time you feel angry, agitated or even a bit annoyed.

Choose again.

Feeling “left out” no longer needs to be an experience for you, because it can literally disappear in an instant when you choose inclusion instead.

P.S.

No one is responsible for your happiness. If you are direct and inviting (make an offer) for what you want, that actually works better in terms of building your sense of well-being. You are responsible for your own happiness. Your only job is to take the first step and be welcoming when desire (or fear) arises. This is your freedom from suffering unnecessarily.

And on that note, you are always being sent love & good wishes. Have a wonderful day.