As far back as I can remember, I have always tried to protect ‘self & other’ from pain, but I did not know what it meant to love ‘self & other’. There really isn’t any ‘self & other’ as they’ve been referred to. There is only the Truth of who we both are. This is my True Self.
So, in my ignorance of who I truly am, I showed up the best way I believed how, based on my beliefs of ‘self and other’. But, I always experienced terrible and destructive feelings of defense & attack from self and other (if I didn’t please you, and you didn’t please me, love and acceptance was withheld)
I lived with this conflict all my life.
So, NOW, waking up to who I truly am, I’m willing to experience something new. It’s taken much courage to face my fears of rejection.
But, with the Truth, comes great wisdom. The truth of who I am (True Self) does not reject ‘self & other’, its the beliefs of self that reject ‘self & other’.
It’s been quite a journey so far, but I have a deeper faith now in this Freedom called Love.
NOW, if ‘other’ ever feels triggered by me, (which is nothing new) and I find out, I can remember to stand in My Truth, My Safe Place, and being that Safe Place for ‘other’. I look forward to acting as the object of the other’s blame for pain that it believes I am. I look forward to feeling any stressful feelings within me that are still hiding.
For example, one stressful belief that causes me stressful feelings is , “I am responsible for the hurt and wounding you experience” AND “You are responsible for the hurt and wounding I experience”.
I’m grateful the ‘other’ shows up for me in this life so that what’s still dormant within me can come up and out. This is about healing beliefs and feelings that are false and stressful about “self & other”. In the healing, we all benefit in the healing when a projection is seen for the mistaken belief that lies behind it.
In the healing, ‘self & other’ fade away, along with all feelings of pain and suffering.