THE FOUR AGREEMENTS

The Four Agreements

1. Be Impeccable with Your Word. Let your Word reflect the Ever-Present Being of Awareness that You are. With Love & Understanding, hold the space for thoughts, objects, appearances,  and their expressions. Speak with integrity.  Say only what You mean. Say it from gentle and compassionate Self-Assurance. Use the power of your Word in the abiding direction of Your Loving Identity.
2. Don’t take Anything Personally. Nothing others do or express is because of You. If you believe you are a ‘you’ in a world of ‘others’, then everything you do will be subject to scrutiny & suspicion of motive. There is constant blame and punishment involved in attachment to mind. This entire inner resistance of thinking, feeling and perceiving, (taking things others say and do personally), stems from identifying Yourself as a separate living object, living in a world of other separate living objects. These ‘identities’ seem to be ‘real’ and subject to misunderstandings. By their very nature of not knowing awareness, they are resistant and fearful, attempting in every moment to project this resistance on ‘others’.  If you believe you are this false identity, you will take everything personal, and point a finger at another ‘object of blame’ for taking away your happiness.   But this so-called conceptual reality is a made-up story in the mind, and is a complete fabrication based on no experiential foundation. So, the story of being a separate living entity with it’s own story, living in a world of ‘others’ with their own story, can be a scary and dangerous place to live, Especially if you say or do the wrong thing.  What any separate living entity thinks, says and does is a result of its own thoughts, feelings & perceptions, (its own story). Its only function is to project that story onto others, make it seem believable, and try to get the love and happiness it seeks. This is a bad habit of ‘objects finding other objects’ to project onto, inducing guilt to get love.  It is this very mis-identification of identity and its perpetuation of the story that is the veil that blocks the awareness of Your Ever-Present Loving Awareness.  When you know Your Real Identity as the Ever-Present Awareness, then You are immune to the thoughts, opinions, actions, sufferings and stories coming from the mind (and the apparent separate living entities).  You will no longer be the victim of a separate living identity that does not exist.
3. Don’t Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Do you want to continue making false assumptions based on being a separate living entity? Do you want to continue investing all your energy into trying to get your needs met from other separate living entities? Ask yourself, “Who is the YOU that you refer to when you speak of Yourself? An object? Or ‘that which knows and is aware’ of It’s True Reality. This is Your True Identity. Be that Awareness aware of being aware. Find a way to BE it. Inquire. Investigate. Look into. Study. Meditate. Peer deeper. Devote yourself to knowing what you are. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. Listen. Hold space. Accept where others are at. Avoid trying to interfere with the stories of separation. Allow them. Allow the resistance to unwind itself.  With just this one agreement, You, as Awareness, can completely transform Your Life.
4. Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when your body is feeling well as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and You will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse, and regret. Return to being aware of Your Awareness. Detach from wandering thoughts about what you are, who others are, what you aught to think, say, and do at any moment. Don’t allow thoughts & opinions to beat up on your own self. Be Present. Stay in Your true Identity, Aware of being Aware; for Yourself, as Yourself.